Just Diagnosed with Autism? 4 Essential Steps for Parents

Just Diagnosed with Autism

If your child has been just diagnosed with autism, you may be feeling a flood of emotions—grief, confusion, worry, or even guilt. This is completely normal. Many parents describe this time as overwhelming, wondering what the future holds and questioning whether they did something wrong.

First, take a deep breath. You are not alone. Thousands of parents have been where you are now, and while the journey may be different than you imagined, there is hope, progress, and a bright future ahead.

You're Not Alone—Your Feelings Are Valid

It’s okay to feel a mix of emotions right now. Some parents describe feeling relief at finally having an answer, while others experience sadness or fear about what this means for their child’s future. You might even find yourself mourning the expectations you once had. That’s okay.

“I struggled with my child's diagnosis every day at first… I kept imagining the life I had pictured in my head, now changed. But over time, I realized that my child is still the same wonderful person, just with different needs.”

You are allowed to grieve, to feel frustrated, and to be unsure. Processing this diagnosis takes time. The important thing is to be kind to yourself and to know that your child is still the same incredible person you’ve always loved.

Many parents who have been through this stage want you to know: You are not alone, and it does get easier.

What to Do After Autism Diagnosis

Right now, it may feel like there’s a mountain of information to sort through. You don’t have to do it all at once. Here are some simple, practical first steps to help you get started:

✅ 1. Connect with a Specialist

Your child’s pediatrician or an autism specialist can guide you through treatment options, therapy referrals, and next steps. They can help explain what the diagnosis means and what supports are available.

✅ 2. Get a CMDE Evaluation

A Comprehensive Multi-Disciplinary Evaluation (CMDE) is used to determine eligibility for services like EIDBI (Early Intensive Developmental and Behavioral Intervention). This evaluation helps ensure your child gets access to early autism care and behavioral therapy.

📌 Learn more about CMDE evaluations here: Minnesota DHS - CMDE Guide

✅ 3. Learn About Therapy Options

Early intervention can make a significant difference in your child’s progress. Some common therapies include:

🔹 ABA Therapy (Applied Behavior Analysis): Helps develop communication, social, and daily living skills.
🔹 Speech Therapy: Supports language and communication development.
🔹 Occupational Therapy: Helps with motor skills, sensory processing, and daily tasks.

✅ 4. Build a Support System

This journey is easier with support. Connecting with other parents of autistic children—through local support groups or online communities—can provide guidance, encouragement, and a safe space to share your feelings.

📌 Find support near you: Autism Society of Minnesota

Just Diagnosed with Autism? It’s Not Your Fault – Debunking Common Myths

Many parents ask themselves:
❓ Did I do something wrong?
❓ Was it because of screen time?
❓ Did I miss something earlier?

The answer is no—autism has complex causes, and it is not caused by parenting, technology use, or vaccines. There is nothing you did to "cause" autism, and nothing you could have done to prevent it.

Instead of focusing on the "why," focus on what comes next—how you can best support your child’s unique needs.

Hope and Progress Are Possible

Receiving an autism diagnosis does not mean your child will stop growing, learning, or thriving. Many parents share that once they found the right support, they saw incredible progress in their child's communication, behavior, and independence.

“Once we started therapy, we saw real improvement. It’s not always easy, but my child surprises me every day with what they can do.”

Every child is different, but with time, therapy, and support, many parents find that their children learn new skills, develop meaningful relationships, and live happy, fulfilling lives.

You are not on this journey alone, and your child has so much potential ahead.

Resources & Support for Parents

Finding support is one of the best things you can do—not just for your child, but for yourself.

📌 Parent Support Groups & Communities

Talking to other parents who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly reassuring. Consider joining:

  • The Autism Society of Minnesota – Provides parent support programs and resources.
  • Local Facebook Groups & Reddit Communities – Many parents share advice and personal experiences online.
  • Parent Workshops & Training Programs – Learn strategies to support your child’s growth.

📌 Educational Resources

  • Autism Speaks – Guides and toolkits for newly diagnosed families.
  • CDC’s Learn the Signs, Act Early – Early intervention resources.
  • Your Child’s Healthcare Team – Your pediatrician or therapist can provide additional materials and next steps.

You're Not Alone—We’re Here to Help

Right now, things may feel uncertain, but this is just the beginning of your journey. With the right support and resources, your child can thrive—and so can you.

💙 If you have any questions or need guidance, reach out to us. We are here for you, every step of the way.